I've spent the entire day angry, even after trying to leave my anger behind me. The anger seethed in the background for most of the day, and I excused myself from work because I was certain that I would explode if I was given the slightest reason.
I will not blog while I am angry, so I waited all the way until now before I wrote anything at all.
Wouldn't it be nice if humans could forgive and forget? Wouldn't it be nice if we could turn off our memories of when people insulted us or hurt our feelings? I've had trouble with that in the past, and today might be the same. I believe that forgiving is an ongoing process where we must first say: "I decided that I would not become angry about what happened." I believe human memory can be encoded very rapidly from short-term to long-term memory, creating my problem of forgetting. Once an incident gets into my long-term memory, it's there for the long haul. I've only deliberately forgotten one or two things in my entire life. Things that make me angry are hard to forget.
If I am to live the inverted life, I have to be willing to forgive somebody "seventy times seven" times (Matthew 18:15-22). If you do the math, that just means "490 times." That's a lot of times to forgive a person. What the verse really means is "always forgive people who do bad things to you." Keep doing it until you've lost count.
I can't turn my memory off like a faucet or a light switch--that means I can't control when something will remind me of a bad memory. My anger might flare up, my adrenalin might surge, I might relive the whole situation. I might've been livid at the time, but that's when it's time to say:
"I decided that I would not become angry about what happened."
At least for me, forgiving is not a one-time action, it is a day-to-day process. Most days, I don't get reminded of bad memories, but on some days, I have to consciously force myself to relinquish the anger of the past. That is not an easy thing to do, and for me, it doesn't always work either!
I leave you with a favorite quote of mine:
"Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die."